by: Bella Enahoro
Why should you be yourself? The humorous answer is, “Because everyone else is taken.” That also is the simple answer, and an accurate one. The important question is, “Why are we not ourselves?” What will authenticity cost you?
What is the pay off for not being ourselves? Ahhh, now we’re talking. What would cause us to not want to be ourselves?
For some of us, we may have been raised in environments where it was dangerous to be who we are. People who live in gang areas may be afraid to show ambition to leave the gang, or to want to get an education, because it could be fatal to them or their family.
Even as adults we may be working in environments that demand that we be someone other than who we are in order to ensure job security. A good example is an HSP, or Highly Sensitive Person, who doesn’t think inside the box normally.
In these situations some conclude they have to be other than who they are in order for survival – i.e. love, safety, income etc.
We may have learned to believe, “Who I am is not good enough to be loved, guaranteed safety, approved of, etc”. We may have been told we are unworthy, we are different, we are not as important as someone else, we don’t belong… Authenticity is who you really are.
We are all worthy – and we all have a place in our society
When we feel not good enough what happens to our lives? We end up putting things on hold until we feel we ‘deserve’ them. We spend too much time striving to feel that we’re good enough. “Have I accomplished enough?” “Am I good looking enough?” “Is my car big/fast/exclusive enough?” “s my job title high enough?” “Do I have enough awards to be good enough? Exhausting isn’t it?
Self worth and authenticity are intrinsically linked. The worth we have in our own eyes, our own sense of worth, is not built on acquisition, job title, appearance, credentials, etc. How many of us realize that we have an intrinsic worth greater than anything on the outside?
If we go through life with a sense of being worthless then we are unmotivated to acquire value in our own name. We look at others to give us our worth, and are forever finding ourselves deficient.
If we feel our life is worthwhile, then the things that others value in the world are not important, and we don’t look to them for validation.
Our self-worth and authenticity is found within ourselves, and it’s not something anyone can give us, or say to us, or bestow on us.
When we finally realize our life is just as valuable as anyone else’s, that is the minute when we start to re-evaluate our life and have a breakthrough. It’s time to take all those comments, and negative people, and toss them out for the lack of value they represent.
This is not an easy task. It can be excruciating at first, but if we face our fears and refuse to take flight, we can transform. Now begins the re-acquainting ourselves with the ‘real’ us – all of it.
There are many ways to transform yourself, and sometimes it’s baby steps at first. There is journaling, meditation, prayer, walking, body work, sound, vibrational healing, and speaking to someone who can help to build your self esteem.
We tend to gravitate towards one that works for us. Soon the pain subsides, loses its edge. We don’t feel so raw. Other lives may be in shambles around us, but we can stand to be alive, and increasingly we can stand to be ourselves.
We live in a time of infinite help, with wonderful teachers who can assist us in moving out of our debris; emotional, psychological and spiritual shells.
Not being who we are, may be something we picked up at our beginning but was never a part of our being and we need not continue with it.
#selfimprovement #recognizingyourtrueworth #transformingyourself
About the Author
Bella Enahoro is the founder of http://www.livewellaudio.com a Motivational company that helps individuals, non-profits and companies improve their lives, build communities, profits and positive impact.
Visit her website for the latest on audiobooks, downloads and articles on self-help, personal growth, professional development and spirituality.
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